Dear Alec,

The school asked us to write a note that could help you if there are troubles, like a natural disaster or other emergency that might keep us apart for a little bit. We’ve written notes every year you’ve been in elementary school, and you’ve never needed them. Hopefully, you won’t ever need this note either but if you do, we want you to know that there are things that can never change, no matter how hard life might get.

We love you. You made us a family. Your smile and creativity and love make us a proud, happy family. Even when we correct you, even if we are upset about something you did, we will always love you and will always be your family. You are our joy.

You are an intelligent, strong, caring kid. We’ve seen you help others when they need you. We’ve seen you figure out things that were tricky or hard when other people couldn’t – building things like your golf course or your sprinkler system, for example. We’ve seen you run hard and think fast in sports, and we’ve seen you be strong even when you had tears in your eyes. Take care of yourself today. Help the little kids. Think about how to stay safe. Work hard when someone needs your help.

Life is hard sometimes, but you can handle it.  I know you want to yell, “it’s not fair!” or “why did this have to happen?”. It’s OK to be frustrated or worried. Don’t let that be everything you are today. Choose to be your best self today. Stay calm, follow instructions, remember that this will be over soon. Think about all you love in life and how wonderful it will be to get back to all of that. What will you be happy to do and see after this?

You are not alone. Even if Mom and Dad are not right there with you, we are in your heart. We are thinking about you and planning to be together soon no matter what. Take comfort in the people who are with you right now. Find someone you trust, and ask if you can give them a hug. Hold their hand. Talk about how awesome it is that you have each other right now, and how you will remember this forever. Talk about things you enjoy. Help one another.

This will be over soon, and we will be together. Our love is yours always. Dad and I are waiting for your hugs. 🙂

Love, Mom and Dad